Difference between courting and dating

Unexpectedly, during a few days exploring Luang Prabang, Laos, I met Jonathan!

If you’re traveling on your own, you’ll meet a lot of travelers – mostly European, and being a backpacker you shouldn’t expect another backpacker to take you to an expensive restaurant – oh and he’s British btw.

After few months of just keeping in touch on facebook while I continued my solo backpacking, Jon and I decided to be officially together, and we’re now together for almost two years!

I’m not lucky cuz I’m with a white man – we are BOTH lucky to have each other cuz we deserve the best! Check out our DIY Travel Guides here and for cheap hostels around the world, check the list here.) This is also for all the Filipinas who are being judged for dating a Foreigner instead of our Filipino men!

Also, if you travel in mostly Asian countries, having a Filipino passport has way more advantage than his, he has to pay more than me!

UPDATE: We’re engaged and getting married next year!

We need desperately to reintroduce young men and young women to the delightfulness of the opposite sex. In our swamp of miserable statistics, let me introduce another that is often overlooked. First, it is evidence of deep and widespread loneliness.

We wouldn’t have them read articles proving the superiority of a way of life they cannot imagine. For the problem is bigger than that, or more fundamental. It isn’t enough that no one prevent them from going outdoors, just as it isn’t enough right now that no one prevents our young people from holding hands, delighting in the company of the opposite sex, courting, and marrying. Dancing, I know, is another one of those games that used to be passed along by the young to the young, but that’s long ceased to be the case. Where can our young people go to have innocent fun, not just alongside the other sex, but specifically for mingling with them, meeting them, flirting with them, searching for one of them to love? I’m deeply interested in theology, but most people aren’t.

Now all we’re left with are the epileptic jerks of disconnected “partners” on a strobe-lit stage, all conversation made impossible by noise from hell, or the embarrassing slow-dancing, which you can hardly engage in with somebody you are only beginning to get to know. They used to sponsor basketball games, for both the players and the people who’d be in the stands cheering them. Where are we nudging them gently along toward marriage and the sweetness of that life? The “theology” they drink in comes from Mass, from prayer, and from—note this well! It comes from learning to love someone forever, under the canopy of the Church; it comes from the vow at the altar, and the child in the cradle, and the daily charities and forbearance of married life, life in a real and precious society.

I was already travelling on my own long before I met Jonathan (well, I’ve met Jonathan while travelling! Jonathan and I are both long-term travellers and us living and settling down in the UK couldn’t be further from our minds.

We both want to buy land to build our very own yoga resort in the Philippines.

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